Sadhe Sati

From Philsworld

Sadhe Sati is the Live Journal identity of a girl named Amber Cody. Her Journal hosted a flagrant sexual harassment attack by Lima_PCP on a good friend of mine. She seemed to agree with the point, but when I added to the matter after I moved house she turned on me, thus;

“By beating a dead horse and commenting to him on a pretty dead post made almost two weeks ago, restarting the bickering, you are egging him on not to mention just annoying me. Things were relatively peaceful until someone decided to do this. If you haven't noticed, he finds it quite amusing to get a rise out of people. He's obviously not going to be the one to walk away from an argument, and try to be the better person.”

~ Sadhe Sati on Her LJ in September 2005

I covered this in the article on him, but Jeremy only exists to get a rise out of people, and I will always fight people like that. Why? Because they are bullies, and I will not be dictated to by a bully. I couldn't believe Amber would allow a proven bully to stay on her LJ. It's inexplicable - and it also prevents LJ from taking action because they have a way to pass the buck. Everyone is above a bully - we all know that. Bullies are cowards.

“But I can guarantee you that if you ignore him he'll get quite bored after a while and not bother you anymore. He's not the type of psycho who's going to go out of his way and stalk you. He'll merely find someone else to argue with.”

~ Sadhe Sati on Her LJ in September 2005

Amber says that like it's a good thing. It's not - it's bad thing. He won't shut up unless he is told by someone in authority to shut up. He'll continue to upset and abuse people. That's wrong, and someone should have the courage to stand up to that and take the appropriate action. In Amber's case that means removing Jeremy from her LJ and keeping it that way.

She then made a comment that said to me in blazing lights that she was in bed with Lima_PCP. And that started a yo yo between her LJ and my Blogspot blog. I wanted to drop the subject as far as the blog was concerned, but events on Amber's LJ forced my hand. This is what I posted on my Blogspot blog on September 30, 2005;

I've been thinking about everything that has happened. That bastard Jeremy sexually harrassing Melissa, and discriminating against me (and bullying me) and LJ doing nothing about it. And Amber doing nothing about it either, and turning on me in such a way that I just can not understand. The only explanation that makes sense is the one that I've already given - she's back in bed with him. Amber can deny that all she wants, it's the only rational explanation as to why she won't throw Jeremy off her LJ for what he did - at the very least to Mel as they are supposed to be friends. Friends should look after each other.

To be mocked in a way for taking the Internet seriously is highly offensive to me. The reality is that the Internet is pretty much all I have to socialise with. What I have IRL isn't enough. That's Aspergers Syndrome at work. It applies for every Aspie, not just me - so we are heavily reliant on the Net to meet people. And we are just as reliant on the powers that be (such as LJ abuse and owners of forums, journals, blogs etc) to do their job and protect people who have such restrictions. The only place that seems to be 100 percent safe for me right now is my own forum - and even that is a chore because of Ayling and Millar forcing me to stop accepting new members for now. I have the solution in preparation, but it's taking a long time to set it up.

The general advice for dealing with situations like this is to just walk away. It applies to both the Internet and IRL. The trouble is when one is socially restricted, that becomes a very hard thing to do. To just walk away from an option to find friends when your options are inherently limited is a proposition that borders on the ridiculous. If this was real life, it would be akin to forcing yourself to just stay at home and don't go out. I know how dangerous such a thought pattern can be - but that is exactly what has happened on LJ, and is threatening to happen here. And who gives a hoot? Amber doesn't. Neither does LJ. Jeremy doesn't either, but then he's an idiot anyway (cast iron Dubya supporters usually are) so he's easy to deal with. But Amber and LJ are not.

It's hard when I feel out of a keen sense of justice that it's neccessary to check back on Amber's LJ. I don't bother with Jeremy's - I've only looked at that once and that was awhile ago. The last message I posted was on Fireuzer's and that was also awhile back. It doesn't help when I have to make this blog public because of the link to my website - and I find out that even though I've banned Amber and Jeremy from commenting here, I can't stop them from looking. It creates a no win situation.

The one thing I CAN laugh at though is the assertion that I've been posting anonymously and pretending I'm someone else. Where on earth did they get that idea from? Must be someone else bagging Bush.

But it's a sad state of affairs when Amber turns around and does the same thing all discriminators - assume that my inferior social skills are an indicator level for intellect. That's a typical response from someone who has taken the usual line of "I don't understand you, therefore you are mad". Very lazy, and worthy of contempt. I just wish I had a logical and rational explanation for all of this, so I could get some closure and be able to move on as certainly LJ expect me to.

All this just makes me start thinking thoughts that frankly scare the crap out of me. If people won't do the right thing, I should make them. And viciously. But that's terrorist talk, and that's why it scares me. I've already done the wrong thing IRL once - and once was more than enough.

(I'm willing to put money on this - that bitch Amber posting a response to this on her LJ and accusing me of having a whine. You don't have Aspergers, little girl, so you have no right to say anything about it - except "I'm sorry")

Well I was right - the foolish girl responded and here was my response to that;

“Because if you look at the threads chronologically they make it quite clear that BOTH SIDES WERE JUST AS MUCH AT FAULT AS THE OTHER and the insults actually started with your side.”